So, the Pope, a penguin, and a talking ladder walk into a bar and sit down at the bar. The bartender looks up and says, “What is this, a bar joke?”
A guy once told me that the secret to creating humor was to bump two paradigms together. The fact that he was wearing a giant duck costume at the time he told me, didn’t really phase me. The fact that he was from outer space did. I’ve heard that aliens from other planets just don’t get our human sense of humor. This alien was a paradox. That happens sometimes in space. Obviously, he misunderstood, thinking he was a pair o’ ducks. So, I put on the other giant duck costume to help him feel better.
I could have started this whole article off with a synopsis of articles and books referring to the healing effects of laughter. I could have offered a philosophical treatise on the effect humor has on the psyche of humankind. I also could have quoted the many medical journals stating that laughter and joy have very real physical effects on the synapses of the brain. I could have put you to sleep long before I even got to introduce any point to this and have the sound of snoring reverberating in the ethers. (Someone bet me that I couldn’t use the word ‘reverberating’ in an article.)
The best point I can come up with at the moment is that it’s better to have laughed and lost than never to have laughed at all. Imagine a life with no laughter at all in it. Go ahead, imagine a life with no laughter in it. They exist. No matter what the circumstances, no laughter. Whether the circumstances are dire or whether they are beneficial. No laughter. Lives like these do exist. Sad, isn’t it. And in imagining this, we find we have no laughter for these lives, only sadness. We look upon ‘life with no laughter’ and feel something similar for these lives.
Now imagine a life filled with laughter and joy. No matter what the circumstances, laughter and joy. Whether the circumstances are dire, or whether they are beneficial. Laughter, laughter and more laughter. Which life would you want? More laughter? Or none?
Sadness has its place in our lives. Grief, pain and suffering have their place in our lives. Running away from these doesn’t heal them. Repressing these feelings doesn’t heal them. So, what do we do with them if we’re wanting a life of laughter and joy?
Perhaps the secret is to bump two paradigms together – the paradigm we have in our heads and a paradigm that is so far greater than our own.
The question really isn’t “Does sorrow, grief and suffering exist”? Anyone who says they can be avoided is selling something. The question isn’t “Do we get rid of sorrow, and grief and suffering?” Good luck with that. The real question is “Is that all that exists?” In asking this question, we are looking for the answer, at the same time knowing that these are not all that exist. Even in the ‘Life with no laughter’, we know that there is more yet available even for this life.
So often, we have determined inside our own “cardboard box” paradigm that there is an established measured out amount of joy and laughter we have all opted to have in our lives and so we know that joy, laughter and humor exist. We’ve been taking our “best medicine” and been very dutiful following the prescription to the letter. In fact, let’s not over do it. Not too much joy, now. Not too much laughter. We do it when it’s written in the script, when it’s the right thing, prescribed by the authorities, and when it’s supposed to happen according to the appropriate doctor’s rules, … but not a penny more!!
Let’s take a tally of how many times in one day we laugh… or snicker… or are amused. No? Too much trouble? Not important enough to do? Too busy with life to try some unimportant tally? Is anyone thinking “He’s just writing a rhetorical question to his audience”? “He’s not really expecting me to take a tally of how many times I feel joy, or laughter, or humor in one day, is he? I don’t have to. I’m not going to bother.”
There’s the issue. When humor, joy and laughter become unimportant, we take steps to forget about them in our lives. We shunt them aside and wait until the few times that we may stumble across them in the parking lot. Instead of focusing on joy and laughter, during times that it would be good if not even wonderful to include them, we instead think that is not an important enough quality to try to have more of in our lives. We don’t go looking for it. And we begin to get bogged down more and more and more in the sad, the pain, the sorrow, the joyless, and all without realizing it.
The Bible says, “Seek and ye shall find.” This includes joy and humor. Who goes looking for joy and humor? People who want more joy and laughter in their lives, that’s who. People who want to know if there is more inside life than just what we get without ‘the wanting of more’. That’s who.
If we want more joy, if we want a sense of humor, if we want laughter in our lives, we must look for the joy, look for the ridiculous, look for when two paradigms bump together. The Course in Miracles says, all we have to do is be willing, God will do the rest. This goes for laughing, too. If we’re willing to find more joy, more laughter, and strengthen our sense of humor, God is willing to help it to happen. Just be careful for what you’re willing, God really does help things like this. If we pray, “God help me have a better sense of humor” what do you think is going to happen?
Will God take away the sorrow and grief and pain and suffering and chaos and pain and sorrow and doom and despair and agony on me and deep dark depression and excessive misery, and cancer and war and grief and suffering and funerals and grief and crucifixions and divorce and chaos? No, probably not. We’re just going to have to accept that Congress exists. Will He take away death and taxes and bad puns and hives and hurricanes and tornadoes and political commercials and earthquakes and volcanoes and tsunamis and Donald Trump’s hair. No, probably not. We’re just going to have to live with Donald Trump’s hair.
Sadness, grief, despair, sorrow, doom – these are easy. We can have them anytime we want. But, it just might take some effort to build something better. Laughter doesn’t always come easy. Just ask any comedian on stage. But, if we look for more joy in our lives, if we look for more laughter in our lives, and believe that Jesus was really telling the truth when He said, “Seek and ye shall find. Ask and it shall be given you.” Then watch out, joy will come. A sense of humor will show up – probably dressed in a giant duck costume… or two. (Don’t shoot us.)
So, what do you get when you put two paradigms together? 40 cents, of course.
Think about it.
Jodie S.